Dr. Abudram discusses 10 types of reactions, that parents have while listening to their children, and while I was reading the book, I found myself recognizing some of those reactions that happened to me as I was growing up (feeling unimportant, pushed aside, judged by those that should be guiding me), things that I vowed to NEVER to to my own children, yet have been doing, I wasn't even realizing that I was doing it!